If You Write Porn, Then Men Drop Mucky Suggestions into Your Messages, Should You Be Surprised?

Dark Lionness
2 min readDec 3, 2023
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They call it romance, but the truth is, it’s the kind of erotica that gets banned, even by Amazon. Online stores refuse to promote these books because of the hedonistic activities they portray. Sometimes such books are removed from sale altogether, due to offensive material.

Yet some self-published authors churn out this stuff by the bucket load, then complain about receiving mucky comments in their Twitter DMs.

Should they really be surprised? Don’t a few mucky messages go with the territory of writing porn? Should women learn to handle the occasional advance when they’re pushing stuff like that out into the public space?

It’s a matter of fierce debate, because some authors say, no matter how mucky their material, that does not give men the right to send them suggestive messages.

I get it. I’d draw the line at photos and anything threatening. But isn’t it a little inevitable that if you spend all your time trying to turn guys on, some horny bastard is going to try and contact you occasionally?

Mary Whitehouse would call it ‘filth’. Some call it pornography. Extreme pornography. Bondage. Hedonism. Even animal abuse. Some call it erotica. Others dress it up as ‘romance’, but suffice it to say this is not Mills and Boon.

There are women on Twitter who make all sorts of provocative suggestions in their Tweets then get all offended and respectable when they receive mucky suggestions in their messages.

But some might think that’s inevitable. Do you?

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Dark Lionness
Dark Lionness

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Dark lioness from London. Navigating life in a complex world.

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